Wow, What a reality check. Everything you said was on point and logical. I'm divorced and was married to a woman with four kids; It was an overwhelming experience. My ex is an excellent mother because the older kids' energy did not mesh with the rhythm of our home.

The youngest, who was three when we were married, we could have built a future with us three, but she spent a lot of time getting the older ones where they needed to be, and it was just bad timing. Financially neither one of us was where we should've been,

I take accountability for my part as a man. In all, I had no business marrying a mother of 4, and I have no kids, Nothing against any woman with kids because I know some bosses with kids that, if they were the ones I married, would've worked,

So many people need to get their priorities in order before dating, having sex, having kids, or getting married. Look at your life,, and also look at the life of the one you lay with. Make it make sense,