The 6 Types of Love that Left Indelible Impressions on My Life
What was it about these relationships that made my heart melt?
Imagine if you just highlighted the good in your past relationships. Let’s just omit the pain and drama and let’s focus on what was it about them that made your heart melt. After all it was something about them that caught and kept your attention. In a perfect world I think we all would love to find everything wrapped up into one person. Some people actually are fortunate to find their soulmate. My journey in love has been an interesting one so far that has been filled with peaks and valleys. I’ve experienced 6 types of love that’s shaped my perspective of loving a woman. I’m going to take you through the uniquely beautiful experiences that left a permanent imprint on me.
1.) First love
The first thing I remember about my first love was the pure innocence of it. It was truly what you would call puppy dog love. It started as a group of friends from the same neighborhood riding the bus and walking home together. Well kids from other schools would share the same bus and there were some young ladies from catholic school that happened to walk the same way home with my group of friends. We blended in, laughed and joked until we all went our separate ways. There was one of the young ladies that seemed to have a playful, sarcastic energy towards me and you know when you’re a kid that’s a sign that a girl likes you. So it was something about her that slowly drew me in the more that I walked home with her. Our walks as a group ended with her and I becoming friends and then we became even closer. It all happened gradual and natural. Our first kiss might have been the first for both of us. For teenagers I don’t know how we understand what romance was but her and I created a wonderful atmosphere. I shared one of the most romantic moments of my life with her. Kissing each other in the darkness with a backdrop of rapid but calming rain. It was charming and sweet moment that has stayed with me to this present date. We were only together for a short time but that small window of time is one that I’ll never forget.
2.) Epic love
As I began to mature I started to work and be exposed to more diverse experiences. I remember in my 20s I worked at a movie theater and life was fun, vibrant and full of new adventure. I remember during down time I would have these deep and thought provoking conversations with a fellow co-worker. Even though we were at work it seemed like we could’ve talked all day and night. So we continued this on to our first date and we connected like we were long lost kindred spirits. Every moment with her felt like an escape and a getaway. Our relationship was way ahead of it’s time like some futuristic love affair. We experienced things together that people would definitely flood their social media accounts with in this present day. She was fearless, cultured and spontaneous to say the least. We went to the movies, concerts, vacations, plays and bought music together when the brick and mortar places existed. We went from riding roller coasters to being content with taking walks on dark snowy nights. This relationship was the closest to a best friend and lover that honestly i’ve ever had in my entire life. It was one of those relationships that were we just fit and matched on an intellectual level. We had a balance and dynamics from serious to goofy from lovers to best buddies. We were in love with each other, in love with life and the life within each other. We both saw far beyond color, class and race which seems to contain and divide so many of us these days. With us that wasn’t a factor. We are two human beings who respect and accept each other. We tapped into our truest and most authentic selves when we were together. This was one of the highest vibrations and mountain peaks of my life so you can only imagine how it felt crashing back down to the valley. Don’t imagine that because we’re going to stay right here at the summit and bask in this epic love.
3.) Supportive love
After a break up an artistic man like myself delves deeper into creativity. After being with a woman that made me feel like I was on a mountaintop when we parted ways I experienced dark valleys. Walks home from work became longer and introspective. I channeled my emotions into writing songs and playing guitar. One day on my way to work I met a young lady that I started randomly talking to. I realized that we both shared interests in arts and music. So on another bus ride home as she sat next to me and I had with me a boxset of my favorite band that I just purchased. I was very excited and eager to get home to listen to it. I remember saying out loud I really hope this particular song is on there. She points to the song on the boxset and says “ It’s right here”. At that time I knew something about her was different. She payed attention and was genuinely interested. She was also tuned in to me and present which is extremely rare these days. I invited her over to listen to some music and I play some songs for her. She accepted my invitation. The night she came over and hung out with me it was one of the rainiest evenings that you would ever believe. When she came over we listened to CDs, talked about life and it all flowed organically. I remember she was affected by the ambiance of the albums that I played for her. She was nowhere else but right there in the moment with me. So I as I began to share written lyrics and play my songs on guitar for her and I remembered how laser focused she was. She sat next to me and peacefully experienced an intimate acoustic set performed by myself. She asked questions, gave feedback, was engaged and was not distracted. You see we didn’t have smart phones at that time so we were plugged in and connected to each other. We only saw each other one more time after that and it never turned into anything romantic. There was something about her that felt beyond any relationship that I’ve previously experienced. It was another frequency that I’ve never tapped into before. The signal was strong and the vibration felt good to my soul. I had met my first loyal fan of my art. There is nothing in this world more euphoric than a woman that genuinely cares about a man’s interests. It was truly a different kind of love. It was warm, engaging, accepting and transcendent. It was a supportive love.
4.) Butterfly love
This is the one that we all dream of and see in all of the romantic movies. If you’re a cynic you probably don’t think it exists but I hate to break the bad news to you. Falling in love does exists. It was a feeling unlike I’ve ever felt in my entire life and in that one moment I felt like I was in heaven. They say watch what you speak or what you ask for because you just may get it? Well I got it. I remember telling a girlfriend that wasn’t my girlfriend at the time you will be mine one day and it happened just like I spoke it. My words manifested and we found each other years later like it was meant to be. Our first date to see a movie is when “It” happened. She wrapped into me to stay warm and it felt like we were custom made for each other. It was a natural high that felt like the highest of highs. Right then I felt a rush of absolute joy. It was either infatuation or a true spiritual connection. In our short time together we talked of marriage but it never manifested. I remember her planning our wedding with my family and even that felt like a surreal fantasy. Our love probably was the closest thing to a fairy tale that I’ve ever experienced but we eventually woke up from the dream and came down from the clouds. She was the one that I thought I had always wanted but our flames burned out quickly before a wildfire ever started. I can’t even explain or put into words what was it about her that captivated me but whatever it was it was powerful. I fell real hard and trust me that pain was real. They say when you fall in love with someone you feel butterflies in your stomach. That sounds nervous and heavy to me. For just a moment I felt light, ethereal and I floated like I myself was the butterfly. It was just a moment. It was an amazing moment though.
5.) Married Love
Well this the ultimate goal right? This is the destination love eventually leads us to. Holy Matrimony. When two becomes one and make a covenant with God. Our relationship was a long distance meeting and when I heard her voice for the first time it felt like I’d known her for years. There was a sense of peace and calm that I felt talking to her. I remember she recognized herself as my wife and we seemed to skip over the boyfriend and girlfriend phase. We both believed that we were beyond that. When we physically met and were among each other I remember it felt like we were already married. I’ve never experienced a woman preparing a home cooked meal on that level before. She had been taught by a southern grandmother how to prepare these magnificent meals. Her and I complimented each other well and dwelled comfortably in each other’s space. We started our wedding on New year’s Eve and completed it on New year’s day. A new chapter in my life had just begun and life felt so joyful. For the first time in my life I felt like I was in a grown up relationship. When you hear the cliche' phrase she was my peace well you know what? She really was my peace because she created that atmosphere around her in our home. I remember being more concentrated on my work and all of my creative ventures that I pursued when she was around. She brought a stability that I’ve never had in my life. I even remember my naps felt deeper and more restful. She was my balance and I was the dreamer who conceived the ideas and she was the realist who executed them. I was the helium balloon and she was the anchor that would keep me tied down so I wouldn’t float all over the place. Through this union I had support and contentment. Married Love is a higher love that starts with a strong foundation that has to be constantly built upon.
6.) Visionary love
I haven’t met her yet but I believe that I’ve never experienced someone like her before. We all want someone to “get us” and most importantly we want them to see us. We all need to be with someone that has vision for the relationship. Many times I think that’s what was missing from the equation. We get so infatuated and intrigued with someone in the present I really think we forget what it takes to build for the future together. Investing diligently in us daily while always keeping the bigger picture in mind. A love that has vision sees things that aren’t yet there. Call those things that be not as if they were. We believe in each other and we’re creating a life that we’ve always wanted in real time. I think anyone can temporarily be swept up in romance when things are shining, exciting and new. When the honeymoon stage is over we both still need to show up. When life drains us we can plug right back into each other for an energy boost. Imagine a relationship that operates on a rhythm that you’ve never experienced, can’t comprehend, contain or even explain. A love that can’t be defined or be compared to a previous relationship. You dwell in a space that’s never been occupied because it’s only meant for one. It’s a secret place that’ll be uncovered and revealed when the time is right. A visionary love is never losing the awe of a brand new day and it appreciates each breath. When the one that’s custom made just for you comes along they’ll be the oxygen in your lungs because you both feel alive.
