I like this article. It gave me a better understanding of how women feel about a guys motives and agendas. I like to turn off defense mode and turn on listen and learn mode with topics such as these. Growing up I was put in the nice guy category. The problem with that was it never felt like a compliment. I was directly made to feel less then by men and it was more indirect by women. I've now accepted i'm a nice guy. I take it as a positive. I'm not a " nice guy" but a genuinely nice guy. I try to be a thoughtful and kind human being. Learning how to read the room and be considerate. In my mind a woman's interest in me is black or white. No grey. So i'm not going to make a damn fool out of myself by chasing and pursuing you when you show zero interest. That's where it gets creepy. It seems like a boundary issue. I don't like anyone forcing themselves in my space or in my life either. Think about when someone tries to sell you something that you don't want. These days we need more empathy for others and we need to just get over ourselves.