I adore you Ginger. Thank you. I like what you did for your son. We have to change the culture of men and boys. Every boy doesn't have art, writing and music as an outlet as I did. I wasn't good at sports so God chose me for what I'm doing now.
You may be surprised but I'm not as emotional as you may think I am. I was even called stoic which was very physically attractive to the woman who called me that. That last sentence may be the problem. Do women dry up like the Sahara when we are too emotional? I get that because you are turned on by our masculinity. I do think we need that balance.
My Mother admitted to cutting me off emotionally at five because she was so she didn't even realize it. It unfortunately didn't work that well for my older brother and sister but for me it was different. My was not an emotional refuge for me at all. She was more of a teacher and trained me how to be classy, well spoken and responsible. She showed me how to be independent.
I had so much imagination, imaginary friends Star Wars toys and spaced out cartoons as a kid I never felt sad or lonely. I remember eating the cereal C threepios was such a highlight. I'm such a nerd.
I didn't feel a deep sadness until my first major break up in 96. I didn't understand those feelings because emotions had been foreign to me for most of my childhood. The mental and physically chemistry I had with my girlfriend of that time came out of nowhere and was nothing like I ever felt before. So losing it hurt real bad. Looking back I realize there's a price for expecting a love that epic.
A lot of men can't handle that rejection. They lash out in ways that harm themselves or others. No one teaches boys how to transfer pain, sadness, or anger into something productive. Something creative. Think about the opposite of creation. Destruction. When I create my feelings have a place live and thrive.
A woman in our lives caring about our mental health is a beautiful thing to me. To be frank most of my life I normalized women not giving a shit about how I felt. Do you really care about my heart? Since I'm a man I should suck it up and walk it off. How has that worked for society?
We don't ask for much. Some support and understanding would be ok. Her ;Baby how are you doing today?
Him: I'm fine
Her: ( She touches his hand and looks at him in the eye)
No darling, How are you feeling today?
Then he shares.
You see what just happened?
She took a moment to just focus on him. She didn't insert herself.
She did actually what Ginger did for her son. She made herself available to him.
As men we can be powerful wit a woman's respect and support. There's nothing wrong with you being an emotional refuge for your sons, friends and husbands.
When women take time to see us when can see a clearer picture of ourselves. Thanks for seeing me Ginger. Thanks for seeing us.
If you don't mind I probably should make this an article right? Lol Promote your article in it.
Walter
